Single Lady In Nairobi: When You Give Up Everything For A Man Who Doesn’t Love You

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Single lady in Nairobi: Don’t be eager to over impress

Have you ever met those ladies in university who do everything for their boyfriends? I don’t mean ‘everything’ in terms of love and care for them; I mean cook, clean his house, wash his boxers and even give them money. Meanwhile the guy just sits there smoking shisha and blowing the smoke in your face as you tirelessly scrub off the vomit from last night’s party off his carpet?

Such cases just leave me wondering where the heck we went wrong as women. I mean can’t we just give fair share to a relationship without going as far as literally breaking your back just to keep this guy by your side? Is the sex really that good that you’d give your all to become a wife to someone who doesn’t even give a rat’s ass about whether you find other girl’s panties in his bed as you clean his bedroom?

A woman cooking. Image from http://madamenoire.com/195646/so-what-if-i-dont-cook-for-women-who-arent-obsessed-with-what-men-want-in-a-wife/

See, going through campus has always been regarded as one of the main stages that really teaches you about life’s harsh truths. Getting to live alone (or sometimes with a roommate or two) far away from the tender care of your parents/guardians shows you a thing or two about how to buckle up and face tough things on your won. Examples of these include rom cutting down on expensive luxuries like eating meat every day to cutting down on having milk with your tea, but one big lesson I got from campus is dealing with relationships.

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10 Lessons That I Have Learnt

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Youth leaders go through various cycles of progression in their lives as they transition from adolescence to adulthood. This progression is not homogeneous but there are questions and lessons that are built through the mutual lived experiences.

In the past 5 years I have  gone  through changes  in my  professional  life  moving  from the edges  to the front  lines  of policy advocacy  for  action, health systems  strengthening and last  mile in service  delivery  for reproductive health  and youth  development  programs.

I wanted  to share  some of  the  lessons  I have  learnt, still  re-learning  everyday with youth leaders and  hope you find this useful with your journey  (all the best): Continue reading »


Ever Wondered What It Feels Like To Be A Man Who Was Raised As A Girl? Check This Video Out!

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Kingston Farady

Meet Kingston Farady. He is a transman. He describes himself as an “Alchemist: Transforming my own margins into vast territories where inclusion reigns. Shining light on my gender variant kin of color. Living the Tribe Life.

His story will give you goosebumps! I know I got some :D!

Apart from being superbly handsome, he was raised and socialized as a girl.

I just love the way he describes his world view of mind, body and spirit. Love it! That’s exactly how I live my life.

You can watch his interview with Laura Lang here.

Powerful stuff!!


18 Photos of Pregnant Women That Will Take Your Breath Away!

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They really do glow.

March 23, 2015
You probably know that the baby-making process (we mean everything that happens after the fun part) is not super glamorous. Sometimes, in fact, it’s just freaking gross.

That said, carrying around your little nugget for nine months can be a beautiful experience. To reflect that sentiment, we bring you 19 stunning photos of moms to be. Ladies, pregnancy looks breathtaking on you.

See them here! And see this amazing album of Funky Pregnant Mums!


I was raped and infected with HIV because I am transgender

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AUTHOR: Okun Oliech

I am a trans-woman living in Kisumu County and I am HIV positive. I dropped out of school when I was 13 years old because I was never at peace in there. Everyone was making fun of me.  Both teachers and students at my school used to say I was possessed with demons and I needed to be preached upon so that the demons in me that made me act like ladies could get out of me. Others kept saying I needed to see a doctor so that they could correct my condition and yet I wasn’t sick. I was frequently bullied in school and no one came to my rescue.

At home things were just the same as in school.  I could hear my parents argue at night in their room that I was a product of infidelity and that the gods had punished my mother by giving her an evil and cursed child. The community around me was so mean and heartless to me. They never even cared about how I felt as a human being. In fact they never saw me as a human being. To them I was like an animal.

I was raped twice by people whom I knew very well. They said they were trying to correct me so that I could become manly and straight. I reported the incident to the police but no action was taken. The guys that did this inhumane act to me were hostile to me and threatened to kill me. I was forced to run away from home and live in the streets.

Read more here.